Generational differences are often a lot to deal with. Adding a cultural difference can lead to extreme hatred. In the Vietnamese culture, boys are praised while girls are thought of as inconveniences. On page 189, Andrew says, “But I [Andrew] don’t think that’s why Chi wanted to be a boy. She was just never meant to be a girl.” Chi, although born in Vietnam, became Americanized when they immigrated to America. It is uncertain whether or not she had the gender struggle in Vietnam, but in America it was the main force in her life. Because her father still thought of himself as Vietnamese, in his eyes, it is acceptable to beat your children if they disobey you or your ideals; however, in America, beating of a child is not acceptable and is in fact illegal. Chi’s father beats her when he finds out that she is wrapping her chest and that leads to his arrest. Had he been more inviting of the American culture, he might have been able to learn other ways to cope with his disagreements with his daughter. For example, he could have talked to her with words instead of with his fists. However, no matter how he had discussed it with her, he should have been able to realize that it is her life and she can do whatever she chooses to do with her life, even if her father disagrees with it.